Hi friends! So this topic has been a debate that I have heard since I became pregnant with my first child. This method of parenting is something that people feel strongly about, on both sides, and it's called self-soothing: the idea that a baby needs to cry it out to be able to learn to calm themselves down, rather than a parent responding with comfort every time their child cries. Yes I have heard both sides of the argument, and yes I have my own opinion, but in this post I will discuss both perspectives, and share my personal point of view.
I know that people feel passionately about this, trust me, and I have been lectured about the benefits of both sides by parents who swear by their choice. But is there a gray area? As a person, I generally like to see both sides of an argument, weigh the pros and cons of each, and then try to make an informed decision; But this is different, this is personal, and this choice affects my child from the moment they are born and their entire lives.
So yes, logically, I can understand the reasoning behind not "baby-ing" your child and picking them up every time they make a sound. I don't disagree that that can be harmful, but emotionally, I can't allow my baby to cry for more that a minute or 2. It just breaks my heart. I do think that a baby can cry for a little while, maybe up to 5 minutes, but after that, I just think something is wrong or they need my love and attention.